Join us for an interesting look at what secret sin looks like in our lives and how it can destroy us. We will see why secrets have a way of coming out, the devestation the exposure can bring, and steps to defeat our secret sins.
It’s late at night. A man is looking at his wife sound asleep next to him, but he is restless and unable to doze off. He decides to get back up and work on his presentation for the big business meeting. As he searches the net for a good graphic for his presentation, a pop-up flies on his screen. He sees an ad with a scantily clad woman on it. He know he vowed last time he looked that it would be his last time, but everything inside of him says “Look at it, it will relax you enough to sleep”. Two clicks later, he’s back in the stuff that secretly has bound him for years. But who is going to know? It is just his little secret.
Across town, another man is closing up the shop for the night. The boss trusted him to close down the cash register, fill out the financial report, and deposit the money in the bank. As he counts the money and gets it ready, he slips a ten in his pocket. He has been doing it for the past few months, and has accumulated a nice little nest egg. He sees nothing wrong with it, it is only $10, know one misses it; it is just his little secret.
Meanwhile, across the country, a man is on a business trip. At the meeting, he strikes up a conversation with another employee of the company named Tiffany. Tiffany is young, attractive, and he enjoys talking with her. She enjoyed it too, because she asks him if he wants to grab a bite to eat after the meeting. He unconsciously slips his hand with his wedding ring in his pocket as he thinks about the offer. He knows he shouldn’t do it, but he is far from home and no one will ever know. It will just be their secret.
While all this is happening, another guy is slipping into his local convenience store wearing a hat and sunglasses. He self-consciously looks around as he walks to the cooler, reaches in, and grabs a six pack. He quickly pays and bolts for his car, hoping no one notices him buying alcohol. He feels a twinge of guilt that he is drinking again, but he quickly pushes it aside. After all, it is his secret, who would know?
A few days later, 4 guys are sitting in a coffee shop having their weekly men’s accountability group. As they sit and talk, Bill mentions how great work has been going lately. He tells how his boss has him closing up every night and making the deposits. Hs friend says “See, that’s the power of God in you that makes him able to trust you with his money. Aren’t you ever tempted to help yourself to some of it?”
Bill instantly panics. He knows he was the man lifting ten dollars a month from his boss. He can’t let this secret out! So he quickly changes the subject by redirecting the conversation to Dave.
“Hey Dave, you been sleeping okay lately? I noticed Facebook had you logged in at 1 am the other night.”
Dave begins to panic. How could he be some stupid as to not log out of Facebook? What if Bill figures out what he REALLY was doing when he was suppose to be working on his presentation after not being able to sleep? He began to make some kind of excuse, but he is saved by Tom’s annoying ringtone.
“Man, Tom, shut that stupid song off, it is so annoying!” he jokes. He reaches over and grabs Tom’s cell phone before he can grab it. “Hey Tom, who is Tiffany? She is texting you to call her when you have some free time.”
Tom’s heart drops! How does he explain Tiffany? He told her not to call him on his phone. Now Dave saw her text! Tom quickly makes up a lie and says, “Oh, Tiffany is an intern at the office. She probably just can’t find a file. I’ll call her when we’re done.”
Tom looks around at the guys. He thinks they bought his story, but to make sure, he quickly turns the attention to Jason. “Jason, how longs it been now since you got saved? It’s got to be what, 2 years? I’ll never forget how God saved you and delivered you from drinking. Are you ever tempted to drink again?”
Jason calmly says, “Nah, I am done with alcohol.” But inside he is panicking. He had just drank the last of the six-pack he bought at the convenience store just before he came to the coffee shop. Why did Tom have to ask him about it?
The four men quickly finish up their coffee and politely find reasons to leave. They are all anxious to get out of there before any more pointed questions are asked. After all, they need to make sure their secret sin stays just that, a secret. With a “see you in church Sunday”, they all hop in their cars and head off in their own direction, all feeling guilty over their secret sin, but none willing to admit it.
This is a story that is repeated over and over in our world today. Christian men across America have issues of secret sins inside of their lives that they work diligently to keep concealed. They fear anyone finding out because it would destroy their reputations as men of God. So they continue in their secret sin, secretly wishing they could be free of it, but not taking steps to overcome.
I firmly believe it is time for men of God to shine the light of truth on their lives and to gain freedom from their secret sins. It is time we stand up and say “I am trapped in the sin of ______ and I want to be free, and I don’t care who knows it!”
Secret sins are one of the biggest ways Satan traps men. He makes them think they can continue to do what they do in secret. After all, it isn’t hurting anyone, no one else knows. He encourages men to keep their sin hidden. However, he doesn’t tell men the whole story.
The whole story is that Satan wants you to stay bound in secret sins so one day he can expose you! He wants to expose what it is you are doing in secret so he can destroy you, your life, your relationship with God, and your relationship with others. He wants to shout to the world what you do in secret to humiliate you.
Satan is not the only person who wants to reveal your secret sins. God’s goal is to shout your secret sins from the rooftop. How do I know this? Because the Bible says so!
Luke 8:17 For nothing is hidden that will not be made manifest, nor is anything secret that will not be known and come to light.
Hebrews 4:13 And no creature is hidden from His sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.
Ecclesiastes 12:14 For God will bring every deed into judgment, with every secret thing, whether good or evil.
Psalm 44:21 Would not God discover this? For He knows the secrets of the heart.
Romans 2:16 On that day when, according to my gospel, God judges the secrets of men by Christ Jesus.
Luke 12:3 ESV Therefore whatever you have said in the dark shall be heard in the light, and what you have whispered in private rooms shall be proclaimed on the housetops.
Psalms 90:8 You have set our iniquities before you, our secret sins in the light of your presence.
Jeremiah 23:23-24 “Am I a God Who is near,” declares the LORD, “And not a God far off? “Can a man hide himself in hiding places So I do not see him?” declares the LORD.
These verses show us that nothing is hidden from God. We may be able to hide our secret sins from others, but God sees it all! Not only does He see it all, but these verses show us that He is going to expose our secret sin. God wants to expose you and your secret sin because He wants to set you free. He wants it to come to light to save you. Satan wants to do it to destroy you. If two such powerful forces are bound and determined to expose your secret sin, then how do we think we can ever keep it hidden???
It is time for men of God to stand up and say enough is enough! It is time we overcome our secret sins! How do we do it?
We do it by becoming tattletales. Remember when we were kids, there was always one kid who always told all the secrets or turned you in if he knew you did something wrong? This kid was usually labeled a tattletale. Well, it is time we become spiritual tattletales on ourselves.
What should have happened at the coffee meeting we described above was four brothers in Christ should have been honest and confessed their sins to each other. They should have tattled on themselves by confessing their secret sin. Secrets lose their power when the light of truth and honesty are shown on them. So the first step to revealing our secret sin is to out ourselves and confess the secret.
You also need to confess the sin to God and ask for forgiveness. Why do you need to confess the sin if God already knows about it? Because it kills our flesh to expose ourselves to God. It breaks the power the secret has over us. When we expose the secret sin, it frees us. So we have to confess to God and to others and ask forgiveness and deliverance from our secret sin.
Next, you have to go commando on your secret sin! You have to go to extreme’s with your sin. You need to make restitution if your secret sin requires it (ie, financial sins, etc). You have to open yourself up to accountability until it hurts. You need fellow brothers in Christ who will be relentless in holding you accountable, and you need to be honest with them about everything.
Finally, you have to commit yourself to living in honesty and integrity. All the confessing, repenting, and accountability in the world are useless if you are not committed to being free. That is why secret sin is so crippling; it is really up to you if you overcome or not. But if you will set your heart to live free of your secret sin, if you surrender daily to the Holy Spirit’s control, and if you will submit to the authority and accountability of others, you can be free of secret sin. If you don’t do this, your secret sin will destroy you. That is as plain as I can say it. The decision is yours today. Will you conquer your secret sin? I hope your answer is a resounding YES!