“You have beautiful eyes!” – It has been said that a sexual predator will use that one simple statement to lure our daughters away. One of the tricks that sexual predators use is to locate a young girl sitting alone, either at the mall or some place where they can begin to converse. They walk up to the young lady and make that one simple statement –“you have beautiful eyes”. The reaction that the young lady makes can make the difference on whether they try to lure her away or walk away themselves.
If the young lady answers by saying “thank-you”, they walk away but if the young lady looks down and begins to blush, they know they can lure her away for she hasn’t had someone tell her how beautiful she is. That’s where fathers come into play. You see, telling our daughters that they have beautiful eyes, that they are beautiful, builds up their self-confidence. Sadly today, many of the young ladies don’t have a father to love them, to share with them, to tell them they are beautiful. Many fathers are too busy with work or taking care of ourselves and maybe it’s time we start.
Psalm 127:3-5 The Message (MSG)
Don’t you see that children are God’s best gift?
the fruit of the womb his generous legacy?
Like a warrior’s fistful of arrows
are the children of a vigorous youth.
Oh, how blessed are you parents,
with your quivers full of children!
Your enemies don’t stand a chance against you;
you’ll sweep them right off your doorstep.
Fathers, we should be treating our daughters as God’s best gift, training them up in the ways of the Lord. Maybe we have never taken the time to share God’s love with your daughter, or our love with them. We, fathers, can make the difference in our daughters future by how we love them today.
If we never have shown them that kind of love, it maybe difficult to start but it may just save their life. It doesn’t matter what age they are; it’s never too late to start.
One of the ways we can do that is by taking them on a daddy-daughter date. We can show them how a real man treats a woman. Make the date with her, put it on the calendar, then get dressed up and knock on the door to pick her up, have a flower ready, and be sure to make her the object of the night. Be sure to turn off your cell phone and focus on her! Compliment her, talk to her and be sure to listen. And make sure you tell her she has beautiful eyes! And make sure you teach her how to receive a compliment; it could just save her life.
Maybe your daughter is older and the daddy-date won’t work but getting involved in your daughter’s life will make a difference. Texting them, calling them, spending time with them will show that you care. Find out their interests, don’t let them grow up without a father.
The statistics are overwhelming concerning the fatherless epidemic in our country today. In an article entitled “Fatherless Girls” by Patricia Lewis, she states “Girls, deprived of a father’s love during childhood, spend much of their lives lurching around and looking for love in all the wrong places. To be blunt, far too many fatherless girls sleep around with endless numbers of men, desperately seeking male approval, the approval they lacked while growing up.”
One simple statement can make the difference, but it shouldn’t end there. Daughters need their fathers, not just to be biological dads, but fathers who can make the difference in daughters’ life long after we are gone. So why not start today, with that one simple statement, “you have beautiful eyes” and begin to love our daughters.